Why we should get into fights sometimes!!!

I don't like violence. Not even verbal. If some one is getting into a verbal duel with me I generally back out. There are a few reasons for that :-

1. I am not a very good dueler. Even in a verbal fight, I might resort to blows if I don't find the words, which is not a good idea...
2. I am a land mine as compared to others. They might be time bombs or grenades...but I am a mine!!!...as long as I am not avoiding something, I ll blow up the minute I am pricked!!!
3. Before blowing up, of resorting to blows... I ll avoid a fight at all costs. Yes, you may call it lack of courage!!You may call it timidness!! You may call it lack of balls!!! just carry on...I am making a list of all the descriptions. I ll decide on it later.

But a fight has its own advantages. Its obvious that these can be noticed by those who get into occasional fights...the rare fight with a friend...or manager...or parent...some random guy on the road. Once you decide on getting into a fight...verbal/physical...you are switching off the 'flight' button in your brain and activating the 'fight' one....which should be done once in a while. There is no use over working the 'flight' button. Also, the decision means that you have lost your cool, so it gives you an opportunity to analyse why you lost your cool. And its not the losing cool part which is important. Its the reasons behind it which are.

Then comes the exercise(physical/mental/moral/spiritual etc etc). A physical conflict is going to measure the following parameters:-

• Physical Strength
• Reflexes
• Stamina
• Endurance
• Hospital Bill (if you are losing the fight)
• last but not the least: are you a land mine/grenad/time bomb/dud

But the verbal fight measures far more important paramenters :-

• Patience
• Ability to think (logically) when under duress
• Logical powress
• What you 'really' think of the other person involved in the fight!!
• What the other person thinks of you!!
• How big your ego is..
• How big the other person's ego is..
• Emotional Quotient
• How you chose to end the fight:-

                 a) With blows
                 b) Amicably
                 c) Going silent/breaking relationships
                 d) finding a solution

So basically, getting into a fight tells you a lot about yourself. So the next time, if you are in a situation where a fight seems to be the only answer, try it out. Its not fun!!! But perhaps its the perfect opportunity for the introspection you were always searching for. And dont be scared of it!!!....neither the fight, nor the introspection which will follow!!!